Wednesday, April 23, 2008

My Mom, My Hero

I just wanted to take a little of your time to talk about my mom. She has got to be one of the smartest most funny women I know. She's independent and vibrant. She can make anyone laugh with her charm. She's a nurturer, a friend, a mother, a grandmother. My mother is someone whom you can talk to and feel like she is actually listening to you because she wants to, because she loves you. She has been my beacon of light in some of my most darkest of times. Lost friendships, broken hearts, loneliness all seemed to be bearable with my mom by my side.

A couple of weeks ago, I got a phone call from her. Before telling me she made sure that everything was fine, not to worry. She told me she went into get her routine mammogram and they found a cancerous tumor. She was to have surgery to have it removed. Mom said that she would have to go through radiation therapy to make sure that all the cancer was gone.

The surgery went well, the tumor hadn't spread into the rest of her body, it seems they have gotten it all. Mom went to the doctor yesterday and found though that the tumor was advanced enough to have to have Chemo therapy. She goes in Thursday to see how much and how often she has to have it. My mother will lose her beautiful thick hair.

It KILLS me that I can't be there for her. She has been my best friend through everything that has happened in my life and now it is my turn to be there for her, I can't. I live 100s of miles away and have a family to take care of and with gas prices so high, I can't afford to drive. I feel guilty for not being closer. I should be there with my mother!!! I have decided that on her first day of therapy, I am going to shave all my hair. So since I am not close, I would like to ask all of you to keep her in your prayers and in honoring all mothers who are in the same battle as mine, wear something pink on Mother's Day, Sunday, May 11th. I know that there are those of you whom don't like pink, but I ask you to do this from the bottom of my heart. Make a donation, buy a ribbon, get examined...I never thought it would effect my family.....

5 comments:

Nicole Stenzel said...

Hey lady. I love your mom and she is so amazing and strong that she will be just fine. Keep one wonderful thought in mind. Not always do people lose their hair when having chemo done. Depends on the type, how often and where it is being centralized to. From the sounds of it she might lose a little bit, but not enough to notice. Jon does chemo a lot and there are times he has all his hair by the end. Sometimes I think he even grows more other places. LOL! But keep your head up, cause your mom is amazing and she is a trooper. She will be in my thoughts and prayers forever, and you know that! I love you and miss you tons. Next time you talk to mom tell her I love her and wish her all well!!!! Love ya!

Heather said...

My mom told me about your mom, and I sat with her as she cried about your mom. She hates Cancer. She loves your mom. My mom has been through it as have some of her friends, it is not an easy thing to go through. I remember being shocked when I heard the news about my mom also. The hardest part about the whole thing was waiting. Waiting to hear test results. Waiting to hear, whating to hear. And it seemed like everything took two weeks. Two weeks for this test, two weeks for that test. Radiation was hard for my mom. EDK T. had some lotion or cream that she put on either after or before that caused her to not burn. My mom had horriable black burns. I can't remember what it was that she used. Keep us posted I will keep your mom and your family in my prayers!!

Renee' P said...

She is in our thoughts and prayers. Stay strong and close to the Lord.
Love you!

Unknown said...

Mary, your mom is one of the most sincere, warm, and loving people I have ever known. She is like an angel. When I think of her I totally smile because of her sweetness, humor, and charm.

I have been there too, though at a completely different point in my life. But I know some of the emotions you go through. It is so hard. Chemo & radiation suck!!!

I also know though that you guys can all gain so much from this experience even if that seems hard to imagine right now.

I love you and I will find something pink for mothers day to honor my mom, yours, and all the other amazing women out there who have fought or are fighting breast cancer.

I LOVE YOU Mary! Tell your mom I LOVE her too and think she is awesome!

Dorese @ Dorese's Pieces said...

Hey Fosburg Fam! I just stumbled onto your blog and saw some pictures of *gasp* the IF temple? Are you guys in the area?!? Anyway, I wanted to say hi and that I hope all is well with your family. I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I'm keeping you in my prayers. We have a blog, too, in case you ever find yourself with nothing to do. Haha, as if that ever happens! : ) It's http://cornelison.blogspot.com.